With schools and nurseries having started back this week after a long summer break, you may have been confident that your child would walk back in with a smile and a hug for the teacher. However, as many of you may have learnt over the last few days, back to nursery has proven to be the same experience as the first day of nursery.
To be fair to our children, there is so much that changes for them over the summer that they are really not to blame for the insecurities that they feel. Things change at a personal level, moving home, parents changing jobs, the birth of a new sibling etc. Then there is change that was perhaps completely unexpected for us as parents, your child’s nursery closes down over the summer, the teacher that they had last year is no longer there, of course they will feel insecure. These insecurities are manifested in crying when being dropped off.
Having come to the end of the first week, I’m sure you’ll agree with me that Sunday was hard, Monday and Tuesday harder, a light in the tunnel began to shine on Wednesday and today your little one has turned, smiled and walked straight in.
For those that have had children join nursery for the first time, settling in sessions help children find their feet, however the key is always don’t linger: When it’s time to say goodbye, make it short, simple and sweet. Give her a quick hug, tell her that you love her and leave her in the capable hands of her teacher. Don’t stop or come back even if she is crying, she is likely to cry only for a few minutes once you’re out of sight, otherwise, the crying will last longer.
Separation is always difficult for children, thus it becomes difficult for parents too. When you have taken the decisive step of joining a nursery your child needs to see and feel that you are certain about what you are doing. Any uncertainty within you will be felt by your little one and multiplied by a 100 to present itself in the form of an uncontrollable crying child. Feel secure in your relationship with your child, let them learn to function independently to grow into successful individuals.