Everyone gets angry at times. But while as adults we can calm ourselves down, it can be harder for your child to manage his anger.
It’s normal for your child to get angry – we all get angry sometimes. It’s important to teach your child to recognize his anger and learn to release it safely. Here are the 5 strategies to teach your angry child to calm down.
Encourage your child to burn off his anger
Ever get so angry you feel like stamping your feet? Well, your child is exactly the same.
Which means simply by encouraging your child to burn off his anger physically, it can help him calm down.
Get your child to go for a run round the garden, do star jumps, stamp his feet or hit a pillow.
By encouraging your child to do this, you’re helping him let out the frustration and anger in a physical but safe way.
Teach your child to press his internal pause button
If your child is older, this simple strategy can help him calm down when he’s angry.
Teach your child to pretend to press an imaginary pause button, like the one on a remote control, and ask himself, “What exactly am I annoyed or angry about?”
By doing this, it helps your child step back from the situation – getting him back in control and helping to calm himself down.
Show your child how to tap out his anger
A brilliant strategy to teach your child is how to ‘tap out’ his anger.
My tapping technique as it is actually one of the fastest and best ways to help children and adults manage their anger.
Give your child space to express his anger
If your child is shouting in anger, it’s only natural you want to calm him down as quickly as possible. But by letting your child express his anger, he’ll then learn to manage his emotions himself.
Let your child express his anger and don’t make him push it down. It’s like shaking champagne and leaving the lid on – where does that anger go?
It goes inside and causes more anger and resentment.
So stop talking when your child is angry and just listen – give him the space to be angry. Your child will then feel he is being listened to and be able to calm himself down.
Teach your child to recognize his anger warning signs
No one likes being angry – including your child. So to help him recognize his emotions and then calm down, helping your child understand his anger warning signs.
Ask your child what physical signs he gets to warn him he’s about to “lose it”? Does he go red or start breathing faster for example.
By starting to notice the physical signs of anger, your child is getting back in control and is then able to step back from the situation.